God, in this present time, is in need of family ministers, people that can build their homes and the church. Men that are first successful husbands and father then pastors. God wants our ministry to start from Judea. Luke 24:47.
Recent research shows
that ten leading minister in Nigeria today are successful family men.
Types
of Ministers
1. Celibate Ministers (1. Cor. 7:27-40)
2. Ministry Ministers
3. Family Ministers
Types
of Marriages
1. Retrogressive Marriages
2. Executive Marriages
3. Olympic Marriages
4. Electronic Marriages
5. People's Marriages
6. Parasitic Marriages
7. Rocky Marriages
8. War Veteran Marriages
9. Super Master Marriages
10. Friendship Marriage
Old
Testament Family Ministers
1. Adam
2. Noah (Gen. 7:6-7)
3. Moses (Exo. 4:18-20)
4. Joshua (Jos. 24:15)
5. Abraham
6. Job (Job 1:5)
7. David etc.
Family
Failures
1. Eli (1. Sam. 3:11, Matt. 19:3-9)
2. Paul (1. Cor$ 7, Eph. 5, Col. 3:17-22)
3. Peter
4. Phillip (Acts. 21:9)
5. Aquila (Acts 18:2-26, Rom. 16:3, Cor.
16:19, 2 Tim. 4:19
A
Big Question!
Are
you a family minister or a modern day family failure?
Facts
- Your family is what you make it to be
- Your marriage is the picture of your
character
-
Marriage is like a farm, if you
fail to cultivate it, it will grow weed
-
If you cannot lead a home
successfully, you cannot lead a church to where God wants it to be
-
No matter your success in the
ministry, you are a total failure if you are a disaster out at home
- If you fail to make your wife happy, God
is angry with you
- Bad marriage will affect your credibility
and your ministry
- If your wife do not see you as a pastor,
then you are not one
- You are either the head of your family or
the headache
How to become a family minister
1. Strike a balance between ministry and
marriage
2. Develop uncommon love for your wife
3. Get to know the difference between
parenting and parenthood
4.
Become a man of vision. Know where
you are going and share with your wife. If the head is headless. The follower
will not follow
5.
Provide adequately for your family.
If you want your wife to call you HONEY, give her MONEY, Provide physically,
emotionally, financially, morally for your home.
6.
Single ministers should pray very
well before choosing. Women are many but wives are scarce. Three types of
minister's wife: Caterpillar wives (Jezebel), Passive wives, Ministerial wives
(Priscilla) Prov. 19:14
7. Commit the jeart of your wife to the
ministry
8. Set your priority right (God, Wife,
Children and Ministry)
9.
Honor your wife publicly. Appreciate
her little efforts and she will be challenged to do more
10.
Involve her in the ministry -
Visitation, Women Leadership, Sunday School, Bible Study, Evangelism,
Counselling, Children Church, Youth Ministry, Marriage Ministry and
Ministrations. Make sure your wife is not idle, anybody that is idle may cuddle
the devil
11.
Be her husband not just her pastor -
What you cannot do for members, do for her. Cuddle her, touch her, kiss her,
pray with her, joke with her, send love notes, romantic text messages and spoil
her with a little with gift
12.
Satisfy her bedroom desires. Never be a
Russian in the bedroom. Your wife needs about 20minutes of "Laying of
Hands" before any "Combine Service". Be a lover in the bedroom,
not a horse rider, inform your wife ahead if you must fast (1. Cor. 7:3-5), sex
with your wife is not a sin, it is holy and righteous, it does not destroy
annointing, in the bedroom you are a lover and a husband, you are not just a
pastor
13.
Create interest in your wife's
business, family, health, fear, joy and plan. In sickness be by her, never
frget that she needs more than paracetamol, she needs "Kissquine, Lovequine,
Touchdol and Parasitahug"
14.
Understand body signs. If she refuses
to take tablets or say amen to your prayer, know that she needs more than
casting and binding, she needs you, she needs your touch, attention, affection
and your care
15.
Celebrate her birthday lavishly,
understand the mood of a woman, they are female which means a FEELING-FEMALE, a
male with strong feelings. Be an aggressive lover, buy her gifts, tell her you
love her, giver her your attention
16.
Have children you can adequately cater
for. Family planning is not abortion, it should be done. Most pastors are still
raising between 6 and 8 children while their salary ranges between N18,000 and
N30,000. Let your wife work to supplement the family income, it is not
compulsory for jer to be on full time unless the church is paying her. Raise
smaller family for a better effect if your wife is too busy with your
"battalion" she may not have time fir ministerial work
17.
Let there be togetherness. Be proud of
her, be faithful to her, support her in the kitchen, and with the baby. Pray
together, talk together, sleep together in the same room, on the same bed,
stroll togetjer, sit, eat, minister, study, travel together for ministrations
and dress together, holiness should not make you a romantic disaster
18.
Develop leadership skill, crises
management. Let the Lord take the glory in your family
19.
Never allow third party into your
marriage. (Friends, Families, Church Members etc are all third partner)
20.
For God's sake, rest. Most pastors
don't rest, please do rest. If you fail to rest you are putting your life
"under arrest"
To your success!
Pastor Kehinde
Adegbolahan
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